Saturday, September 22, 2012

WHY I TALK A LOT....

Yes, this post is going to be a direct explanation of a question on everyone’s mind.. Call it egoistic, call it what you may. But in effect I hope to lead into some food for thought.


One reason branches out from the reason why the famous quote “Look before you leap”. At most occasions it is essential to plan out what is to be said. Sadly, though I am an advocate of such a obvious reasoning, I cannot claim to be one who practices it. Most conversations which take place involve sharing ideas as they come. Now these ideas, might be sudden and being created dynamically. In that case, as the idea evolves the sentences begin to vary with them. In most cases the observation is that the beginning of the sentence might not even have any connect or even contradict the end. This is mostly since I might have thought up an idea, analyzed it and refuted it. All this while, I would be stating the idea as it builds. By, around the 4th sentence you will see the confusion as the words come out while the idea is being refuted. And so by the end, you have no idea what I just said. Don’t feel bad, I admit, more often than not I don’t too. But along with the complete thought process in mind, all the pieces fall into place. Sadly, or maybe not most of my posts follow the same format.

Now moving into the food for thought, sometimes it so happens that the sentences are appended with clauses or conditions or explanations which are obvious.  It is the characteristic attribute and the proud differentiating factor for human beings from animals to be unique. (No offense, animal lovers and alien believers). With such an individualistic nature floating around you, and keeping that in mind, it becomes all the more necessary to assume that any action, any word or any thought can be interpreted in umpteen number of ways. These interpretations stem from the past, the present and the future. A person’s experience directs him to decipher the meaning of a sentence in his/her own manner. Being aware of this possibility is truly hell. Since at each word it requires that you estimate the percentage of listeners who would interpret it the way you want it, the percentage who take it optimistically and worse the share that take it negatively. Now, analyzing this as you go requires you to add words, clauses, “buts and ands”, just to ensure that a path is given so that the right destination is attained.

I’d like to visualize a conversation as guided tour. The only thing known is the beginning. Now, to reach a destination there are many ways. Taking an Indian context, deciding the way, goes through evaluating criterion such as bad roads, bad crowd, bad timing, good amount of traffic, bad weather and worse roads. In such circumstances, the trip becomes more important than the source and destination. It so happens, that even the destination is evaluated by the worth of the route.  Now mapping back to a conversation, it is required that the right route be given to give the right experience. So, those explanations and add-on sentences are just to make the listener’s experience of the entire conversation a more wholesome one. And at times, even if desperately attempted, a more entertaining one.

Besides, all this , there is also the simple explanation. I just like talking! J

NB : No listeners were hurt, in the making of this post. Readers, I can’t speak for you yet.